Quote of the Day
There’s also this; once you’ve worn a mask for so long, it becomes difficult to take off. Especially when you’re not always sure who you are some days, what does taking off that mask even mean? The mask isn’t a pre-molded construct. It’s an adaptation to the world around you to help you maneuver and function in a society that seems so different from how you feel. When do those adaptations become an actual part of you and when do those adaptations remain things that are separate?
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I never wanted to wear this mask. It’s something I’ve felt forced into. I don’t even notice it half the time. Trying to take it off is like trying to tear off the scab on a wound that hasn’t fully healed. A band-aid on a bullet wound. It doesn’t come off easily yet it doesn’t heal what it’s covering over. It’s the product of years of trying to adapt. Don’t expect it to part from our skin quickly, or easily. It’s a product of the protection we’ve had to develop. I know people get frustrated because they think it should be easy for us to “just be yourself”. But when you’ve had a lifetime of being told that “being yourself” isn’t acceptable, a lifetime of conditioning doesn’t change overnight.
Tags: Mental Health
July 26th, 2012 at 10:19 pm
Sounds like torture. People have told me before that they think I have BPD. Guess when they say that to me. They say it when they’re angry at me. No other time. And they say it like they’re marking me with a scarlet letter that gives them permission to avoid me.
Love is what makes the world go around. Thank you, Jesus, for loving all of us.
July 26th, 2012 at 11:24 pm
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July 27th, 2012 at 7:17 am
Very difficult to take off especially in death of a beloved